Most of the time people want connection / to be heard, more than solutions to their problems.
Someone explained this to me as:
It’s not that people don’t want solutions, talking about their problems IS the solution. In fact “talking about it” is so effective that some people successfully earn their living with it.
well they shouldnt have such easily solvable problems then
I shattered my humerus (upper arm bone) badly, and needed major surgery, so I was in bad pain for a while, exacerbated by the fact that I’m a big whiney baby.
I absolutely refused any opiates for pain, knowing I’d get hooked, so I stuck with massive does of Advil, which worked okay. When I was near the end, almost out of it, I discovered that doctors were often recommending a combo of 1 Tylenol and 2 Advil for pain, claiming that the pain-killing power approached the level of an opiate, without any chance of addiction. I tried it, and the result was AMAZING! It really worked well. I wish I’d known about it when I first came out of surgery, instead of weeks later, when the pain had subsided for the most part.
Also, the Advil is processed by the kidneys, and the Tylenol is processed by the liver, so none of your organs are overtaxed. It’s still not a good idea for those who are taking blood thinners.
I’ve also noticed that Advil now sells their own combo with acetaminophen.
Super admirable to take the safer path. Hope your arm is completely mended.
…It’s still not a good idea for those who are taking blood thinners.
Can confirm. Every time I go in to get my INR checked, I am always asked if I have taken any tylenol products. I don’t fully remember why it’s not a good idea, but I wanna say it might increase blood thickness, which increases potential for a blood clot. And I don’t need to explain why that is a bad thing.
Edit:
I am wrong. Another person corrected and it’s NSAIDS like ibuprofen and aspirin that can cause issues. Specifically raising the risk of bleeding. I thank them for the correction so I don’t just spread misinformation.
You’d think I remember this considering I have been on blood thinners for over a decade, but my memory has never been the greatest for over a decade.
how did you get hurt so badly?
Fell down.
Really, I wish I had a good story, or it happened in Walmart, or something, but I just fell down. And broke my arm. Nobody was more surprised than me. I got up, and said “What the fuck? I think I broke my arm!” And I was right.
You can just go to the TA’s office hours for free homework help.
As a TA, I loved it when students actually showed up. They had better questions than during class, and they always did better in class in the end. Office hours are one of the great college cheat codes. 90% of office hours are spent wishing someone would just show up…
There’s more truth to “you are as old as you feel” than you’d think. But you can’t get younger.
That you don’t actually have to do everything perfectly, doing more things but 80% correctly is usually better
This is a good idea except when I look at my stack of unpublished novels.
Someone please drill this fact in my head 😭
I’m still drilling it into my own lol
Not sure what you mean by “system,” so I’m just going to answer a thing I wish someone explained to me much earlier.
Not everyone feels hunger cues, so “just eat when you’re hungry” can be bad advice.
I learned about anorexia nervosa as an eating disorder in middle and high school. People worried about me because I was thin and didn’t eat a lot, but I didn’t try to stay skinny and I ate when I was hungry, so I knew I didn’t have that. Ironically, learning about EDs made me sure I didn’t have a problem.
In college I took a class that defined anorexia as “a lack of appetite,” identifying it could be a drug side effect, from stress, or just how someone’s body is. It differentiated “anorexia” from “anorexia nervosa.” That opened my eyes that I did have disordered eating, but it was from physiology, not psychology.
I trained myself how to eat enough, but I still have to be careful not to fall back into old habits since I don’t have normal hunger cues. It’s constant work that might have been easier if I started building these habits from a younger age.
I am definitely one of those people who follows the “only eat when you’re hungry, and only until you aren’t hungry” plan, and it’s helped me lose over 100 pounds, while literally eating anything I want (in moderation), so I’m a believer.
We tend to dismiss underweight as a high-class problem that can be easily solved with a sandwich, but your perspective is a reminder to not be flippant. I still think it is sound advice for MOST people, but you have definitely made me aware of exceptions, and to be sensitive about it.
You’re slender, so I doubt I’d be offering the advice to you anyway. Not that I’m going around pitching it to random fat folks I see on the street, that would be weird, and an entirely different problem.
I appreciate your openness to thinking about this differently!
As an adult, my BMI has been as low as 16.1. Stress suppresses my already-weak appetite so it’s often a factor when I’m severely underweight. People saw me meeting society’s beauty standards, but not that I was extremely unhealthy physically and mentally.
It’s been over a decade since my low and I still float around the edge of underweight BMI, but I’m much healthier now (lots of credit to my partner for keeping me eating regularly!).
I think my struggles on this side have given me a ton of empathy for people who overeat or struggle with their weight. A lot of people dismiss weight as a simple matter of willpower and can be so unkind and judgmental.
That was really difficult to read/understand. I added punctuation to make it more clear, at least to me.
What is one of those “Oh my god, I wish someone had explained THIS system to me when I was younger” moments, that really sticks out to you from your experience?
The vast majority of advice you will ever hear about anything is medicinal - it’s contextual to a specific set of circumstances, and is meant to deal with a certain problem or a particular type of situation. Most advice is not applicable universally, even if it is sometimes good advice.
Following from this, if you get someone sharing a piece of advice, consider if that advice suits your circumstances before following it. People have different lives, and not everything everyone tells you will be helpful advice for every situation. Like medicine.
The flipside of this is what a friend once dubbed “terminal uniqueness.” Just because you aren’t in the exact same situation as others does not mean their advice won’t work for you, your life isn’t that unique
Marxists would agree that few things apply universally, and they always consider the context, or “material conditions.” When liberals say Marxists are dogmatic, they’re showing their ignorance.
