Feelings I had for my classmate were obviously one-sided (pretty sure of it), so I made a reasonable decision to never confess to not make things awkward. In a few years since we graduated I finally moved on, although I never loved anyone this much since.
Yet all this time I had a desire to tell her about them. I would definitely want to know if someone loved me this much ever. Would she? I don’t know. I don’t even know if she is in a relationship right now or not.
I would really want to cite some scientific study that “Over 80% of girls have their self-confidence lifted after being told they were secretly admired (p<0.05)”, but can’t find one.
although I never loved anyone this much since.
Attraction /= love. You did not love her.
Yet all this time I had a desire to tell her about them.
You have a desire to have your attraction to her validated. You are essentially cat calling her but in ultra slow motion.
I would really want to cite some scientific study that “Over 80% of girls have their self-confidence lifted after being told they were secretly admired (p<0.05)”, but can’t find one.
Ya cuz in real life it would be “over 99% of women have experienced mental anguish from being told they were secretly admired.”
Don’t insert yourself into her life, or any woman’s life for that matter, just so you can wag your attraction to her in her face. It’s categorically in the same bucket as unsolicited dick picks. You’re doing it for yourself, not her.
Attraction /= love. You did not love her.
I am pretty much sure my feelings fell under most common definitions of “love”. I wonder what makes you think otherwise.
You have a desire to have your attraction to her validated.
Maybe that is a part of it, but I also want for her to be validated. I, for instance, would be if someone told me this.
Don’t insert yourself into her life, or any woman’s life for that matter, just so you can wag your attraction to her in her face.
From the tone of your post, I feel like you had a pretty bad day. I’m sorry for whatever happened to you, get better soon.
I wonder what makes you think otherwise.
Life experience. You have lot of growing up to do.
Do you mean the only factor you considered is my then-age?
I can testify with great confidence that I wasn’t remarkably attracted to her in a sexual way. In that regard I found her moderately cute, somewhat pretty, and a few girls and boys of our age much more so. My feelings were primarily platonic. They developed over the years and consisted mostly of platonic affection, the romantic attraction was the consequence of it.
Finding someone cute or pretty is not the same as finding someone attractive. For example, Benedict Cumberbatch is definitely not pretty, but I find him quite attractive.