Not completely naked, but taking one leg out of the trousers to get a good spread and feet firmly on the floor is a luxury experience.

Mailbox isn’t just good for email. It’s great for getting rid of so many Google services for me. Email, calendar, contacts, TODO lists, online storage, WebDAV sync storage.

I host Tiny Tiny RSS.

• my list of subscriptions and categorisations are centralised so I don’t have to set this up on any other device. I can access this on my phone, tablet and PC.
• it synchronises read/unread stories across devices so I don’t have to keep sifting through the same articles I’ve seen.
• I’ve got a long list of blacklisted words. I don’t want to hear about sports news, celebrity gossip, USA-centric news, “he said/she said” bullshit from social media that mainstream news seems to love to report, etc. Now I can set up my blacklist in one place centrally.
• there are a lot of great apps that will access the server RSS feed. I’m never actually going to to TTRSS browser page.

The point isn’t to download content to the server at all. It’s to keep the centralised list. I host opodsync (Gpodder podcast server) for the same reason.

Read/listen to/watch philosophy content. People wiser than us over the centuries have spent their lifetimes thinking about these questions. There’s no single answer, but there are ways of thinking through this and coming to a place mentally that you can be happy with.

Personally I find Albert Camus’s flavour of absurdism to be the best way I find things to make sense. The universe is irrational and meaningless, and that’s great news. We carry on in a meaningless world and make our own meaning.

If you like podcasts then here are some great ones:

Happiness Lab

Hidden Brain

Overthink

Within Reason (although he’s spending too much time in his analysis of religion, I prefer the other episodes)

Even just watching TV shows and movies helps, as long as you’re paying attention to the story of the charachters, the messages and the experiences/motives of the characters. Seeing the stories of others (even if fictional) helps put your own situation in perspective.

FYI: I’m a noob myself.

Looks fine, but if you’re looking to mess around with a first build then you could go cheaper. Secondhand hardware would save you money, especially since older hardware is great for server use. At least you’re saving money with AM4 and DDR4.

Some thoughts:

• I went with an Intel CPU for Jellyfin transcoding.
• 16gb ram is enough to start and I host tons of stuff with that much, but the more ram the better. Having 2 more ram slots for future expansion would serve you well (but not essential).
• Faster networking would be better. Your mobo has 1 gigabit LAN. Again not a deal breaker. You can add faster networking yourself later.

This guy makes great videos, but you have to be careful to not overcomplicate things or chase specs that pro home server guys want that make no difference to noobs.

I’ve only managed to make it work a handful of times.

There needs to be a connection to something IRL from the online community. Maybe you like the same music, hobby or even playing games (that might be online but it is a “doing” action in person). It should also be something positive. You aren’t going to make healthy connections from “anti-something” communities.

Communities like Lemmy/Reddit are particularly bad for this since they’re predicated on anonymous sharing and not really keeping you in touch with a group of repeat contacts.

You must have enough free time to end up online and shoot the shit in a direct conversation. Maybe an online chat or voice chat or Discord or something. You can’t really make friends easily with asynchronous contact.

I saw a comment about friendship long ago and I have never been able to find it again. It said something like: to be friends you must share at least two things out of this list: stage in life, physical proximity, common interest, shared predicament (e.g. job)… There were a couple of other factors I can’t remember, but the more I think about it this seems to hold true.

Eventually the connection you make needs to be bigger than how you meet. If you meet while playing DotA, and then you stop playing DotA, is there still any glue that holds you together that would push you to keeping connected through a different medium?

I’ve tried to make efforts to make friends a few times online. It has never worked from trying. People on Lemmy even express interest in a social chat group and I made one. No one ever joined. Well, one person did but lost interest in a couple of days. Good luck in your endevours. Share tips if you succeed.

Knowing how the “hardware” works. Having a deep shared understanding of the societal expectations on each others gender. Able to share clothes… I do wonder what it would be like to be gay. Seems pretty great. How can I join the club?

Reminds me of the time my wife asked me “why a computer monitor would cost so much (£500)”. This was straight after she had shown me a picture of a handbag she liked that cost £6000.

I hope that hamster isn’t being mistreated.

Docker containers:

• actual (budgeting)
• affine (note taking)
• bentopdf (PDF editing)
• beszel (server status monitoring)
• cloudflared (for a cloudflare tunnel with my own domain)
• dockge (Docker management)
• guacamole (server remote desktop access)
• immich (photo application, backup, gallery and AI tagging)
• jellyfin (video and music server)
• kavita (comic books and ebooks)
• kopia (backups)
• mattermost (used solo for sharing text, links, files, etc to myself)
• papra (document storage, tagging and OCR)
• pihole (DNS adblocking for whole network)
• opodsync (gpodder podcast sync backend)
• omnitools (file conversion etc)
• prunemate (automated scheduled docker pruning)
• qbittorrent (with gluetun VPN )
• Redlib (reddit access with gluetun VPN because fuck you UK mandatory ID checks)
• samba (file sharing on the local netwrok)
• syncthing (mostly used to keep retro/emulated games in sync across devices)
• tiny tiny rss (RSS platform)
• qbittorrent, through gluetun VPN on a VPN)
• SABnzbd, radarr, sonarr (for media)
• watchtower (automatic docker updates)

The setup is on a bare metal Debian mini PC server with storage on a Synology 2 drive NAS.

Thanks for asking